FOR FAMILIES
In recent years, there has been a lot of talk about 'letting go' when a child goes to college. Rather than letting your student go, we believe you need to focus on letting them grow. In fact, families can play an incredibly important role as a student goes through college, especially during their first year. Maybe you're sending your first student to college, maybe it's your fourth. Each student transitions to college life in their own unique way. It's also different for you. We're here to help.
The Division of Student Affairs staff are experts on the transition to college, and know how to help your student set themselves up for success. We also know what to look for when your student starts to struggle.
CHECKING YOUR STUDENT'S PROGRESS
In the same way your credit card company wouldn't share your personal or financial information with your parents or one of your siblings, we can't legally share any of your student's information without their expressed consent. This access can only be granted if you and your student complete a FERPA Student Authorization Release Form and submit it to the Office of Student Records.
WHAT IS FERPA?
The Family Education Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) is the federal law that protects your students educational records.
For you, this means that there are some topics we can't discuss with you without permission from your student (by completing a FERPA Student Authorization Release From). This includes your student's bill, grades and more.
PRO TIPS FOR FAMILIES OF NEW RAMS
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DO remind them to fill out the FAFSA every year. It will help them to get the highest amount of financial aid.
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DO discuss academic expectations with your student ahead of time.
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DO make a financial plan and openly discuss expectations with your student.
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DO outline expectations about communication (phone calls, emails), and be specific.
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DO discuss the use of alcohol and other lifestyle choices your student will have to make (but don't give lectures).
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DO ask questions, but don't interrogate them. Demonstrate your concern without grilling them about every action.
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DO keep in touch, email and send care packages. A subtle reminder will help alleviate homesickness and let them know you're still around.
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DO be a coach rather than a rescuer. Encourage your student to use their TXWES resources.
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DO trust your student. They'll make mistakes and second-guess themselves, and they'll need your support.
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DO NOT expect a reply for each phone call, text or email you send.
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DO NOT make major changes at home without informing your student.
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DO NOT repeatedly ask your student if they are homesick. This can be a dangerous power of association.
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DO NOT tell them that this will be the best years of their lives. All four (or five or even six) years of a student's college education are full of discovery and transformation into the adult they are to become. This may be accompanied by mistakes, disappointment and constant change. Instead be an anchor. Listen and be supportive.